How many friends can one person have? A study says not more than 150 meaningful relationships in a lifetime – The Economic Times

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However, people could have far more friends if they put in the effort.

LONDON: Just how many friends can one person have?

In a 1993 study, Robin Dunbar, a British anthropologist, theorised that humans could have no more than about 150 meaningful relationships, a measure that became known as Dunbar’s number.

But researchers at Stockholm University published a paper last week calling that number into question, finding that people could have far more friends if they put in the effort.

“We can learn thousands of digits of pi, and if we engage with lots of people, then we will become better at having relationships with lots of people,” said Johan Lind, an author of the study and an associate professor at Stockholm University.

The paper was published in the journal Biology Letters.

In his original research, Dunbar studied monkeys and apes and determined that the size of the neocortex, the part of the brain responsible for conscious thought, correlated with the size of the groups they lived among. The neocortex in humans is even larger, so he extrapolated that their ideal group size was, on average, 150.

In the new study, Lind said he and his team used updated data sets and statistical methods and found that the size of the neocortex did not limit the number of connections people could maintain. Dunbar’s number, he said, “has been criticised for quite a long time.” Lind’s team found that no maximum number of friendships could be established with any precision.

In an interview, Dunbar, a professor of evolutionary psychology at Oxford University, defended his research. The new analysis, he said, “is bonkers, absolutely bonkers,” adding that the Stockholm University researchers conducted a flawed statistical analysis and misunderstood both the nuances of his analyses and of human connections.

“I marvel at their apparent failure to understand relationships,” he said.

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The debate over relationships comes as people are rethinking which friendships they want to recultivate after the pandemic shrank social circles and as businesses are designing post-pandemic work spaces.
Dunbar defines meaningful relationships as those people you know well enough to greet without feeling awkward if you ran into them in an airport lounge. That number typically ranges from 100 to 250, with the average around 150, he said.

At birth, it starts at one or two. Friendships peak in the late teens and early 20s. By their 30s, people tend to have about 150 connections, and that number remains flat until people reach their late 60s and early 70s, when their number of connections, Dunbar said, “starts to plummet.” “If you live long enough, it gets back to one or two.”

In his book “How Many Friends Does One Person Need,” Dunbar pointed to historical and modern-day examples to back up his research. Around 6000 B.C., the size of Neolithic villages from the Middle East was 120 to 150 people, judging by the number of dwellings. In 1086, the average size of most English villages recorded in the Domesday Book was 160 people. In modern armies, fighting units contain an average of 130 to 150 people, he said.

In 2007, when the Swedish tax agency was restructuring, a strategist for the agency proposed that each of the new offices have about 100 to 150 employees, citing Dunbar’s research. Employees, already unhappy with the restructuring, got wind of the plan and complained about being compared to monkeys. (Dunbar’s number did not, in the end, play any role in the agency’s restructuring, according to three officials involved with the plans.)

While it may be comforting to think that there is an optimal number of people with whom we should surround ourselves, in reality there is not one rule that applies to all of us, said Louise Barrett, a psychology professor at the University of Lethbridge in Canada.

“Human life is really complicated,” she said.

Barrett, a biological anthropologist who was not involved in the new study and who previously studied under Dunbar, said the analysis looked robust.

“We need to rethink and adjust our interpretation and hypotheses in light of this new data,” she said.

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By 30s, people tend to have about 150 connections, and that number remains flat until people reach their late 60s and early 70s.The debate over relationships comes as people are rethinking which friendships they want to recultivate after the pandemic shrank social circles and as businesses are designing post-pandemic work spaces.

Dunbar posited his theory decades ago, in the early days of the internet and long before social media sites changed how people communicate.

“This number would make sense if we still relied on a Rolodex and talking to people, but that’s not the world we live in,” said Angela Lee, a professor at Columbia Business School.

Networking tools like LinkedIn have made it possible to increase the number of connections we can maintain, and this is important because research shows that people on the outer edge of our networks are often the ones who end up being the most helpful for career advancement or generating creative ideas, she said.

Dunbar contended that his theory is still viable, even in today’s hyper-connected world, since the quality of connections on social networks is often low.

“These are not personalized relationships,” he said.

What will the pandemic mean for rebuilding meaningful connections, whether at work or in our social lives? It is probably too early to say, but Dunbar predicted that the biggest effects on networks would be on older people.

“Their friendship circles were already declining and this will push them further down that slope,” he said.

Dunbar said that, while he tries not to analyze himself, he guessed he had about 150 friends.

“It’s fairly blatantly obvious to most people when they sit down and think about it that that’s how their social network is organized,” he said.

Dunbar’s number, he said, is not going anywhere.

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